• An eleven letter word describing one’s point of view on people, places, objects, thoughts, situations (basically anything) •
For this post I will be focusing on people’s perspectives of the situations they encounter– the day to day problems they experience and how they deal with them. Have you ever gotten mad over the silliest thing? Sure, it didn’t seem stupid in the moment, but once you took a step back and looked at the situation you probably realized how ridiculous you were being.
I’ll be the first to admit I get pissed over the dumbest things. I throw a fit more often than I should, and let the most irrelevant things bother me. The perfect example would be all of the times I catch my younger sister wearing one of my shirts. She never asks for permission, so of course my initial reaction is to get ticked off. I’ll yell, she’ll apologize and the cycle will repeat itself the next week. It’s annoying and I feel disrespected, but is this issue really something to waste energy on?
I’m writing this post as I sit in the waiting room at the car dealership. I anxiously sit here frustrated, as the woman comes back and forth addressing more issues they found wrong with my car. The costs to fix these problems and the amount of time I have to give up having a car seems like the biggest inconvenience ever. So of course I’m getting upset because I need my car for school and work and being car-less for just two days seems like the end of the world. Newsflash– it’s not.
When life seems to suck and you feel like it can’t get any worse you have two options: let it affect you or move on unbothered. Overreacting, screaming, crying, saying things in that heated moment that you do not mean– that’s letting the problem affect you. Changing your perspective, accepting that there are worse situations you could be in, that you’re lucky to just be alive, and that things are going to get better — that’s moving on unbothered (and quite positively, might I add).
I’ve found that comparing your personal situations to the lives of others really helps to put things into a clear and reasonable perspective. Now, when my sister borrows my clothes without permission, I take a step back and shift my perspective. I realize how lucky I am to even own that many clothes. Children in third world countries barely have enough to cover them. There are homeless people without coats struggling to keep warm on frigid winter nights. And I’m upset that my sister borrowed my faded, old tanktop I bought three years ago?
And yeah, not having a car for a couple of days seems like a horrible thing, but what about people who can’t afford a car at all? They’re inconvenienced all of the time, always relying on a ride from somebody else or catching some form of public transportation. Some may even have to walk to their job or to school in rain or snow. And I’m upset that I have to share a car with my mom the next few days?
I am so blessed and fortunate to have the life that I do and these minor setbacks that I complain about are NOT worth getting upset over. Life will go on, the sun will rise the next day and I will continue breathing. Your perspective can change an awful day to a good day. Please let it. We shouldn’t stress about such silly things.
“You don’t have control over your situation, but you have a choice about how you view it.”
And that can make all the difference.